Jennifer has traveled to Africa five times, as well as to Haiti, Lebanon, and other locations for business and pleasure. She lives in Seattle with her husband, two sons and Duck Toller.
I grew up in a large Jewish community in Milwaukee, Wisconsin. Although I was never particularly religious, I always felt a strong identity as a Jew. My husband and I went to Europe as newlyweds, thirty years ago, and visited the site of the Dachau concentration camp where some of my relatives died. I remember it as informative but surreal, a museum wiped clean of the horrors. It was as if the atrocities never happened. I wanted to feel anger, grief…something. I felt nothing.
I went to Rwanda in 2006 as a journalist, a decade after the genocide that wiped out over a million people, to explore the connections between forgiveness and grief. I spent a month interviewing genocide survivors at the churches and schools where there were still bloodstains on the walls and the bones of anonymous victims carefully stacked on shelves. It struck me that I was always the only one at these memorials. The guides were survivors, usually women, whose families and friends had been murdered at the site.I felt a deep connection with these women, not just as a Jew whose relatives had also been murdered in genocide, but as a human being whose soul ached for humanity.
It struck me that the common human bond, the thing that ties us all together and transcends our differences, is grief. My quest became more about finding grace — personal peace — than forgiveness. In Rwanda, they have a word for this: Amahoro. It means peace, but so much more. This is the core theme of the novel I worked on for eleven years. Now, more than ever, I believe the world needs Amahoro.